"How To Get Over A Broken Relationship"

STEP 1.

Identify your losses. Along with every lost relationship
come other losses as well. Some of those losses may be concrete, for
example after a divorce you may have lost things like your home, your
car, your mutual friends. Other losses may seem vague, and inconcrete.
These could include things like innocence or trust in the other person,
even the hopes and the dreams that you once had, of how your life would
turn out. Every loss we experience matters. Sometimes the ones that we
can't see, touch or feel, are the most painful of them all. Make a list
of all the things that you feel you have lost. Take as much time to
write this list as you need to, and include everything that comes to
mind, from the big things, to the ones that may seem "less important."

STEP 2.

Grieve your losses. As you go over your list, take whatever time you
need to grieve each and every loss that you have written down. New
thoughts and feelings may emerge, as you go through this process. Write
down other losses, as you identify them. This is a difficult, and
painful process. It doesn't happen all in one night, but rather it
takes time to truly complete. By having the courage to experience the
sadness, and the pain, you are also working through it; coming to terms
with it; and someday you will finally find that you are finally able to
let it go. While many people try to skip the grieving process, the
sooner you are able to face it, the sooner you will be able to move
forward. As you go through your list , and experience the grieving
process, remember that the time will come when you no longer feel the
need to grieve these things. Because you are willing to face your
losses now, there will be less chance of holding on to it, and carrying
it with you into future relationships.

STEP 3.

Release your anger. Anger is a natural emotion, especially in
situations where you have been hurt by another person. Unhealthy
relationships can leave people feeling angry and bitter. If your were
lied to, if your trust was abused, if you felt taken for granted, or
devalued, either before or during the break-up, anger will most likely
be an issue that you will need to deal with. Acknowledge your right to
be angry. Anger itself is not a destructive emotion. It is only when
people refuse to face their anger, that they begin to act
inappropriately, when it surfaces. Find constructive ways to release
angry feelings. Journal your anger. Start by writing as many sentences
as you can that begin with "I am angry because...." Anger can often be
released through physical activity. Jog, ride a bike,
use a punching bag, take up kick boxing, or self defense. You may also
find a healthy outlet for your anger in music, dance or through
painting and drawing. Release the anger in ways that will not harm you
or anyone else.


STEP 4.

Learn from your mistakes. Once you have gone through some of the
grieving, and have found healthy ways to release your anger, the time
will come when you need to examine the broken relationship. Try to
identify the factors that led to the break-up. Ask yourself, honestly,
what you could have done differently. Take responsibility for your
mistakes, and evaluate your own behaviors in the relationship. You will
be able to take what you learn from this step into future
relationships, ensuring that you don't repeat the same mistakes again.
Self examination can be difficult. You may find that you feel regret
and remorse for some of your own actions. Acknowledge these feelings as
well. Make a commitment to yourself to move forward, and to learn from
your own mistakes.

STEP 5.

Start a journey toward self discovery. As you move through the process
of healing, you will also need to explore answers to questions like
"Who am I now?" and "Where do I go from here?" Take time to get to know
yourself. One mistake many people make, after a relationship ends, is
almost immediately trying to find a new partner. Most experts suggest
waiting for a at least one year, before starting a new relationship.
During this time focus on healing, on learning and growing, and on
getting to know yourself again.

STEP 6.

Enjoy old interests, and explore new ideas. If you loved to paint, or
draw or dance, before your relationship, but you gave it up because the
relationship took up too much of your time, now is a great time to go
back to doing those things. It's also an excellent time to do the
things you've always wanted to do, like learn to play piano, or go sky
diving or cross country skiing. Embrace your freedom. Pursue your
interests. Make it a point to try new things, and to follow old dreams.


STEP 7.

Take good care of yourself. Many times when people are involved in
romantic relationships they tend to put the other person before
themselves. Now is the time to focus on your own needs, wants and
desires. Pamper yourself. Splurge a little on things you might have
deprived yourself of in the past. Buy yourself flowers. Write yourself
little notes of encouragement. Be your own best friend. At this point
you will come to realize that while relationships are nice, you can be
everything you ever needed, to yourself. By learning how to support,
encourage, and, yes, to love yourself, you free yourself from the
dependency of needing another person to do those things for you. As you
become stronger, and more sure of yourself, you may find that another
relationship isn't what you really want or need. If you do decide to
start dating again, because you took the time to heal, to get to know
yourself, and to learn from past mistakes, you will feel confident
about your own ability to be, or not to be, in a relationship again.

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